tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351590581125983393.post8996080973765620977..comments2023-03-23T10:07:07.319-05:00Comments on The Constant Search for More: Musings Upon a BIG SUV and Other Glimpses of My WeekendHabebihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03642788214480007420noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351590581125983393.post-76968648586405655182010-09-01T20:17:58.342-05:002010-09-01T20:17:58.342-05:00annelise- They are aren't they? They come out...annelise- They are aren't they? They come out of the blue over the littlest things! People say it's different when you have your own, but, I would think I'd be even more overwhlemed at times because of that! lolHabebihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03642788214480007420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351590581125983393.post-43416168189160984462010-09-01T20:16:48.083-05:002010-09-01T20:16:48.083-05:00Pliers- Once again you hit things right on the nos...Pliers- Once again you hit things right on the nose!! I do have choices, and I am beyond grateful for that, but, that doesn't mean I should take such a thing lightly. I am overwhelmed in those moments when I realize how much is involved with child raising. I know that when I have children it'll be at a point of time where I have weighed everything carefully and am ready. I want to make sure I have worked to become the best I can be so I can provide my best for the kid(s). I mean how else could I expect them to reach for the stars if I wasn't a good example? It's just mind boggling what needs to be considered when making the choice to have children.Habebihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03642788214480007420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351590581125983393.post-28088601192123427802010-09-01T19:59:15.463-05:002010-09-01T19:59:15.463-05:00Haha, those moments of panic are so funny. I have ...Haha, those moments of panic are so funny. I have them when my niece and nephew come over to visit (they're two and a half, and eight months old). I want children one day, but when I watch the kids with their mother, I do a bit of a freak out!<br />Don't they say it's different when they're your own??annelisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02758397701111620142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351590581125983393.post-54590667577105439912010-08-31T03:48:18.307-05:002010-08-31T03:48:18.307-05:00I have to admit, having done none of the above, ev...I have to admit, having done none of the above, ever, if memory serves, and having been the eldest of three children born in '52, '54, and '56 in VA, Chickasha, and Tulsa in an unemployed, single-mother, living on handouts from dad, household, I have no plans, at the age of almost 58, to ever do so.<br /><br />That said, what comes to mind upon reading your post today has nothing at all to do with any parent exercising his or her parental responsibilities and everything to do with the fact that you have a CHOICE about whether or not take on that role and those responsibilities. <br /><br />A choice that very few people, women in particular, had before the availability of contraception, abortion, full education, and free access to employment for women in the USA. A choice that is not guaranteed to continue without vigilance on the part of women who are in favor of having social, political, reproductive, and economic choices. And a choice that is not available to most women on earth.<br /><br />If you were panicking in a fantasy permitted by down time in an SUV, can you imagine the panic of a woman with two, three, four children and no access to reproductive choice? A pregnant female student with no children, no husband, and no source of financial support beyond a part-time job to pay for books and housing? I suspect that you can imagine that really vividly.<br /><br />There is no reason on earth that such a scenario should unfold in your life against your will. That said, it has been proven over and over again that children, in and of themselves do not save rocky marriages; do not create commitment in men who do not want to be committed through thick and thin; are instrumental in making single mothers those at greatest risk for defaulting on a home loan; do not forestall divorces; contribute to the feminization of poverty; are among the largest group of non-insured medically; and are very expensive to raise and maintain.<br /><br />I'm really, really happy that you take these babysitting jobs from time to time for the incredible reality check that they afford you! Good for you!<br /><br /><i>Amitiés et bonne chance,</i>The Pliershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09877106616685886293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351590581125983393.post-81021838850343703282010-08-30T19:34:47.868-05:002010-08-30T19:34:47.868-05:00Sarah- OMG I soooooo almost texted you while I sat...Sarah- OMG I soooooo almost texted you while I sat there in that scout meeting. It was their very first one with this new den so it was extra insane. I knew you could relate!! Yeah, the luxury SUVs surrounding me were so surreal. Just, not.. me!<br /><br />I love that you are so cool when I have my panic attacks about having children. Girl, you rock in the best friend category!Habebihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03642788214480007420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351590581125983393.post-74516904538906490012010-08-30T19:27:38.715-05:002010-08-30T19:27:38.715-05:00HAHAHA I shall now call Leo "Dances with Volv...HAHAHA I shall now call Leo "Dances with Volvos." :) In other news, I am glad I don't have an SUV, and I'm all about diversity in schools. As for the Tiger Cub thing, that's NUTS that they put 10 in a den! Yeesh. I'd have checked out, too... or have been running the show. ;)S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/14458144681645743582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351590581125983393.post-60556360067571578252010-08-30T13:48:40.371-05:002010-08-30T13:48:40.371-05:00Caitie- I can't blame you one bit!! I felt so...Caitie- I can't blame you one bit!! I felt so repsonsible making sure the twins got in their reading, outside video game play time, corrected their table manners, etc and the thought of having to deal with a kiddo out of control in the way your described horrified me. I would feel SO incredibly responsible. What do you do if that happens? That sort of thing. I know there are no easy answers and perhaps my panic is for naught, but, man when it strikes it gets to me!Habebihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03642788214480007420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1351590581125983393.post-69951625194048746082010-08-30T13:27:48.453-05:002010-08-30T13:27:48.453-05:00I was in the park the other day when a school troo...I was in the park the other day when a school troop, well, trooped in. A couple of tween girls plunked themselves beside me to eat their lunch and one was clearly the ring leader. Her teacher was sitting with some other teachers, and this girl beside me was mocking her teacher by repeating her laugh, etc... She was also bossing other girls around by putting her leg on the bench if she didn't want one girl to sit down, taking it down when another came by. It was pure bitchy madness and I had a nervous moment when I thought what if one day I have a kid who's an ignorant little shit on a playground power trip? Shudder!Caitiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16743299762848830192noreply@blogger.com